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Links to Think: 13.04.29

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How Evangelicals Are Learning to Be Pro-Palestine, Pro-Israel, Pro-Peace, Pro-Justice and Always Pro-JesusGrowing up in an environment where eschatology equaled Left Behind and patriotism meant fighting with and for Israel at all costs, I found this perspective helpful and refreshing.

“Many evangelicals, who were discouraged by the failed prophecies and the “mood of doom” that dominated the evangelical church in the second half of the 20th century, are rediscovering that the gospel also speaks powerfully to issues of peace, justice, and reconciliation.

Books about the end times, such as those written by Tim LaHaye and Hal Lindsey, no longer dominate the bookshops, and people are being challenged by writings that focuses on the here and now, instead of the there and then!

In particular, the evangelical church typically has looked at the Middle East through the eyes of prophecy, leaning towards an unconditional support for Israel. Evangelicals in the West cheered the creation of the State of Israel in 1948 and the subsequent wars, believing them to be signs of the second coming of Christ—all the while neglecting the impact these events had on real people in the Middle East, specifically on Palestinians, and especially on the Palestinian Church.

The irony for Palestinian Christians is that evangelicals, with their over-emphasis on prophecy, have lost the capacity of being prophetic!

In many cases, when Palestinian Christians (or those who are sympathetic to them) share their take on things, they are demonized, ridiculed, and even accused of being anti-Semitic. The mere presence and voice of Palestinian Christians presents a dilemma for many Christian Zionists, who prefer a simple black and white perspective. But over the years, Palestinian Christians have challenged the Western church to consider what it means to be the church. They have reminded them of the importance of justice and peacemaking. If our theology produces apathy to injustice, it must be re-examined. In the words of Carl Medearis:

If your end-times theology trumps the clear commands in Scripture to love neighbours and enemies, then it is time to rethink your theology.

Many who come to visit the “Holy Land” are troubled by the situation of Palestinians, and are beginning to ask questions about the occupation and the injustices that the Palestinians are facing on a daily basis.”

Four Lies About Introverts - If you’ve been keeping up with the recent information and writing on introverts and extroverts, this article is likely nothing new, but another helpful angle, particularly to Christians in ministry. This Gospel Coalition blog piece is written by Amie Patrick.

“2. Introverts don’t like people.

This has perhaps been the lie that’s stung most for me. I care deeply about people, but I need time alone to recharge in order to be able to give them my best. It’s taken me years to view this as good stewardship rather than some sort of flaw I need to overcome. Actually, and perhaps ironically, the chief thing that’s kept me from loving people well has been my attempt to be someone I’m not. The more I’ve tried to be that “life of the party” girl, endlessly accommodating others without considering what I need to recover, the less capacity I’ve had to actually love people well.

We’re all responsible to obey biblical commands related to loving people sacrificially and living hospitably and generously. And it’s a cop-out to use introversion as an excuse for self-protective isolation. But there’s not just one or even ten “right” ways to love people well. I’ve learned to get better at small talk and interacting with strangers, because it’s important and necessary, but it’s never going to be my greatest strength. I’ve become much more comfortable in opening our home to small and large groups of people, both in planned and spontaneous ways, but going deep with one or two people over coffee is always going to be a place where I thrive. Accepting my God-given introversion, I still allow myself to be stretched or uncomfortable. But I passionately pursue opportunities where I can love people deeply with my gifts and life, and then humbly take responsibility for what it looks like for me to be refreshed.

3. Solitude is selfish and indulgent.

Now there’s a reality here that can be true. If my choice to be alone is primarily to serve myself and intensify a me-oriented focus, it is a problem. But for a long time I believed solitude for the purpose of prayer, Bible study, or worship is necessary, but anything beyond that is probably frivolous. However, I’ve come to experience great benefits from a variety of solitary activities. Solitude in itself isn’t inherently helpful or harmful, but the underlying purpose is pivotal. I can go for a run by myself to clear my head and enjoy God’s gift of nature—or to sinfully distract myself from something I need to confront. I can sit alone in a coffee shop in order to think deeply and process life events—or to worry about things beyond my control. When I cooperate with the way God has designed me, and surrender my solitude to him, he uses it to refresh my soul in often unexpected and powerful ways.”

I’m Sick of Hearing About Your Smoking Hot Wife - This article struck a chord with me and some of the bristling I’ve felt when hearing (or reading) men speak of their “smoking hot wives.”

“When a man brags about his wife’s looks, body, or smoking hot prowess, we may consider his remarks loving compliments from a husband to his better half, but when I hear a man say those things, I bristle. Especially if he’s a pastor, a man apportioned by God to shepherd not only the men in their congregations, but the women too. Wounded women. Tired women. Abused women. Women with so many “godly” expectations thrown at them that they’ll either break under the weight or bootstrap themselves, try-try-trying harder, experiencing burnout, and never quite living up to anyone’s expectations.”

 

 

 

1 Corinthians 13 Mom Meditations: Love Is Not Easily Exasperated

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It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful (ESV)

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (NIV)

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (KJV)

[Love] does not act unbecomingly; itdoes not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, (NASB)

Love is not easily exasperated.

This aspect of love really gets to the heart of what a mom faces day in and day out. The force of the (Greek) verb actually suggests being driven to a point of exasperation. Words like “irritable,” “touchy,” “frustrated,” come to mind.

Love in the moments of exasperation.

What are the factors that drive us to this point?

  • Whining
  • Crying
  • Disobedience
  • Messes
  • Interruptions
  • We want our own way, but it’s not happening.

It is tempting to thrust the blame onto our children for driving us to the point of exasperation. Often the real problem, however, is that our love hasn’t been able to endure. Love of this kind has an impenetrable quality — it never reaches the point of breaking. When love exists in these moments, it is patient and it is kind.

Love is far more than moments of tenderness and gestures of affection. It is a hardy resilience that fails to blow up when things come crashing down–an inner peace that is slow to result in anger. 

Love That Lasts 

Love must, of course, last for the long term — years, generations, etc. But love must also stick through the short-term trying times — when every kid seems to be screaming, everything seems to be burning, everything is being destroyed, and all you want to do is join in the screaming. Love is about lasting through the day, even when your nerves say no.

It’s helpful to take a long term view of love — seeing it as a journey. But it’s also helpful to see love as a short-term project — something to be carried forward for the next two hours, or two minutes, or two seconds, or whatever it takes to get through that moment of exasperation.

Motherhood is made up of millions of points of potential exasperation. Yes, it’s tough. How in the world do we keep going? Love is the oil that keeps the engine running. It helps us to last. It’s the only way.

Love Thinks Ahead to Prevent Exasperation

Part of our responsibility to practice love that is not exasperated is to take an active role in preventing possible points of exasperation. There are practical loving things that we can and should do to avoid being tempted, as it were, to exasperation. Here are some possibilities:

  • Doing your best to get enough rest
  • Ensuring that your children get good food
  • Maintaining some semblance of a schedule throughout the day
  • Getting your kids to bed at a decent hour each night
  • Anticipating and preparing for moments that might prove to be particularly exasperating. For example, if lunch preparation is typically an exasperating time, do your best to prepare your heart, give yourself enough time, and perhaps talk to the children before you begin making lunch.
  • Anticipate transitions
  • Provide your children with a rest time, snack time, or nap time.
  • Leave pauses in the day to take a breathe and release some pressure. If a day is a go-go-go-go kind of day, with no stop, break, or release, it’s no wonder that we get exasperated. Do what you can to take a brief moments to release pressure — to pause, pray, think, or just sit.
  • Sometimes it is a deep breath and moment of prayer, asking God to help us appropriate the grace He has made available to us.

Love that defies irritability.

Irritation or exasperation is one of the hardest things to hide. You know how your husband or good friend just know when you’re having a bad day. You tried so hard to hide it, but somehow, people can figure it out. Our children can figure it out, too. Even if we’re trying to hide it, it’s often easy for children to spot.

Love, in all its full-faceted 1 Corinthians 13 glory, is a love that refuses to be irritated. In other words, it’s not that we’re trying to hide our irritation. This is not a denial of emotions or a fake happy face. It’s not suppressing anger. (And anger is not wrong in and of itself! Paradoxically, repeatedly suppressing anger and denying its existence often leads to this type of irritation.) We must not just detach ourselves from our children in order that we don’t have to react ourselves. It’s that we are refusing (Or, rather, the Spirit working in us is creating this miraculous peaceful reaction) to be irritated.

It’s more than a mind trick at work here. It’s the grace-filled pursuit of a love that we can’t dish up on our own. It’s the admission that our love tank is empty, our exasperation gauge is high, and something’s about to blow. At that moment, when irritiability threatens to make a bad situation worse, love steps in and calls for peace and patience. This isn’t natural. This is only something that God can do — that God is able to do — for moms.

As moms, we face exasperating moments all the time. This little phrase in 1 Corinthians 13:5 is a powerful tidbit of explanation. But it’s more than just an explanation or definition of love. It’s a commission to love. God enables us with the love that we need — a love that is not exasperated.

Others in this Series:

  1. Introduction: 1 Corinthians 13 Meditations for Moms
  2. Love is Patient
  3. Love is Kind
  4. Love Does Not Envy or Boast
  5. Love Does Not Insist on Its Owns Way

Reading 2013: 18 Minutes

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In 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done Peter Bregman offers timeless wisdom for the possibly age-old question of how to get it (all) done.

Beyond Efficiency

Several productivity books that I’ve read this year look at productivity through the lens of simplicity. They’re certainly not promoting a productivity that offers to cram as much into life as possible so that you can cram even more in every nook and cranny. Rather, doing less, focusing on just a few things at a time, and eliminating the unnecessary have all been core themes of these books. But 18 Minutes takes it a step beyond simplicity, and more directly realigns everything to the central question of, “Am I pursuing the right thing, anyway?”

Bregman encourages readers to take a macroscopic view of their lives and ask where they want the trajectory to head. Zooming in, the same question can be asked of the year, the day, and the moment — what is it about?

Like other simplicity-productivity books, there is also encouragement to slow down, do less multi-tasking, choose only a few items of importance, and make a concentrated effort to focus on what is most important.

The book is filled with a lot of rich life principles. These make up chapters and divisions, but if studied more in-depth, most could be an entire exploration of their own.

A Parenting Book in Disguise

I’m a strong proponent for borrowing an idea from one field and applying that idea to another different field. Yet I think most any parent reading this book would see many direct applications to parenting, even beyond the normal cross-pollination that occurs while reading. Bregman often includes anecdotes from his experience as a father of three, and uses lessons learned from parenting to apply to productivity; so it’s quite easy to flip the lessons the other way.

As cross-pollination goes, I found some of the sections on motivation to be particularly helpful in thinking of ways that I am teaching my children to learn to self-motivate and to take on projects and tasks as they journey toward adulthood. (E.g., Just like we often need the motivation to take the first few steps, so do our children, and sometimes we can be the gentle hand that helps them take the first few steps.) The tie-in with habit-training concepts was quite helpful, and gave me a lot of food for thought as we learn and grow together as a family.

Table of Contents: 

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Links to Think: 13.04.15

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You CAN get up on the wrong side of the bed: Sleeping on left ‘makes you more cheerful and positive’ - Aha! Now that explains things! :)

“In addition, 31 per cent of ‘lefties’ love their job compared with just 18 per cent of ‘righties.’

However it is not all bad. Those who sleep on the right side of the bed tend to earn more than their left equivalents.

Claire Haigh spokeswoman for Premier Inn, who commissioned the research, said: ‘The research clearly indicates a pattern between which side of the bed you sleep on and the mood you wake up in.

‘Left sleepers are more cheerful, appear to enjoy life slightly more and have a more positive attitude to the day ahead than right sleepers.

‘It comes down to habit and what you’re used to.  If you are used to sleeping on a certain side of the bed, it does feel a little alien when you switch.

‘So it seems the age old saying about getting out of bed on the wrong side is completely true.’”

And if what side you sleep on wasn’t fascinating enough, here’s an article by Scientific American that speculates the side we sleep on picks up cancer more quickly due to the metal bedsprings, “Left Sided Cancer? Blame Your Bed and TV.” I no longer sleep on a spring mattress (foam) and have never slept with a TV, but a recent CT scan did reveal I had tumors (most likely non-cancerous, though) and several other issues all on the side I sleep on.

What If Everybody Understood Child Development? - This article addresses educators in particular, but is pertinent to anyone around children or who has been a child. (Though perhaps it is those who were not permitted to develop as children who now have trouble understanding and empathizing?)

HT: Johanna @ My Home Tableau

“When writing my Huffington Post piece on children and gun play, I found myself wondering what would happen if everyone understood child development. What changes would come about in education? How much healthier would children’s lives be if this unique period of their lives was fully understood?

Since then, here are a few of the things I’ve encountered:

  • Another child, this time a 7-year-old, was suspended from school for biting his strawberry Pop Tart into the shape of a gun. (Really, people?)
  • A mom responded to one of my tweets about project-based learning with a comment to the effect that she’d just objected to that “nonsense” in her son’s science class (perhaps the content area most suited to inquiry learning).
  • A mom sent me an email pleading for help because her daughter, who has ADHD, is constantly having recess withheld because she forgets things.
  • I read multiple stories of elementary-school children not allowed to talk during lunch.
  • A mom told me she prefers that her child do computer art because it’s less messy than traditional art.

You might wonder why that last one is such a big deal. Well, anyone who understands child development knows that children learn and retain more when their senses are fully engaged. Manipulating a mouse and watching images transform on a screen can’t begin to compare to dipping a paintbrush – or both hands – into a pool of color and slathering it onto surfaces with textures ranging from smooth to course, absorbent to impermeable. Or to the satisfaction that comes from kneading and shaping malleable clay or Play Dough. Or to wrapping little fingers around a big, fat, promising crayon and immersing oneself in the self-expression only possible with seven shades of purple.”

While this article deals with childhood development in the elementary-age child, I find myself wondering the same thing about infant-age child development. This article, “Modern parenting may hinder brain development” has some connections to that subject, as does “The Power of Talking to Your Baby.”

1 Corinthians 13 Meditations for Moms

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“Love is patient, love is kind, love is…the greatest of these.”

A few years ago, I memorized 1 Corinthians 13 so that I could better meditate on the passage generally as a believer, and specifically in my role as a mother. So many times, these words have been brought to mind and I have been convicted and encouraged as I seek to love my children.

I’ve decided to go through this passage again and look at several of the “Love is…” portions and meditate {and write} on how they apply to me in my role as mom. I plan to write about this on Wednesdays for a while. Next Wednesday, March 27, I’ll look specifically at “love is patient.” Since I’m a mom of young kids, my application will be geared most specifically toward that age.

If you have a blog and would like to join in, you can feel free to share a link next Wednesday, as well.

{P.S., the printable at the top is free for your download. This size is intended for a 16 x 20 size (also scales to 8 x 10). If you wish to download, just click on the image, magnify it, and then save the image. You can find more word art like this in our Etsy shop, Word Spice.}

Reading 2013: Justice

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Michael J. Sandel’s Justice: What’s the Right Thing to Do? offers a comprehensive exploration of essential questions that we face in today’s world: from affirmative action to moral limits on markets, from same-sex marriage, physician-assisted suicide, abortion, and how we promote enrollment into military service.

As to the title, it could just as easily be called Ethics; this is not necessarily a treatise on merely social justice or law. Nor does Sandel give his readers a final statement on what is the right thing to do in each of these issues. (Although in several cases he does make clear what direction he favors.) Justice explores a variety of perspectives (e.g., Utilitarianism, Libertarianism, Communitarianism) from which to view these situations, and a reasonable explanation of each is given. Sandel also examines these issue through the philosophies of Kant, Rawls, and Aristotle. In a sense, the book is a primer on the development and articulation of secular morality.

This is not a theological treatment of these issues, but a philosophical one. Nor is it done from a Christian perspective. Yet, whatever one’s faith, this book asks important questions that cannot be ignored forever. Religion, and particularly the morality of Judeo-Christianity, is impossible to leave out of the picture entirely when considering justice and ethics, as Sandel emphasizes in the book.

This book was referenced by Timothy Keller in Generous Justice when discussing the common tendency among secularists to push for religion to be excluded from any politics or promotion of justice. Sandel is out of the ordinary in this instance, as is Keller, to a degree, in his promoting working alongside non-believers as we try to promote justice–an earthly picture of eventual, eternal shalom.

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January in Review: Reading and Goals

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A little late, but I’m still going to recap some of my January goals, annual goals, and blogging. Obviously, a public blog is not the place to share all my goals, but just a select few in areas which I’ve found motivational and inspiring for me to read about other people’s goals. Continue Reading…

Links to Think: 13.01.07

 Misérable means Miserable - Bob Bixby shares some helpful thoughts on the recent film version of Les Misérables. He discusses its musicality, vulgarities, and spirituality.

“And the problem with trying to depict that kind of misery with all of its crass is that there is no way in the world anyone can do it without offending somebody’s sensibilities. In the previous paragraph I’ve offended somebody, I know. It’s the risk the artist takes. And though he may occasionally push the envelop too far for most people, he has succeeded if he wins the sympathy battle by getting people to feel the right things at the right times. In Lovely Ladies, no one but a pig in the audience is feeling any desire to ogle the degraded women for personal gratification.

The art that is most harmful to Christians is not the art that has scenes with bad language or uncomfortable depictions of evil acts. It is, instead, the art that has us almost involuntarily sympathizing with the wicked. We all know, for instance, that we shouldn’t sympathize with the vigilante murder of a bully, but if the artist has captured our affections with his storytelling and we are sympathizing, literally feeling with, the protagonist even if we know that his actions are morally reprehensible then we have succumbed to worldliness. But Tom Hooper didn’t give anyone an opportunity to sympathize with the sex-crazed sailors and foul-mouth thieves. He showed it and we were all led by his artistry to recoil in hasty disassociation from the wanton lust, greed, injustice, and bawdy humor. In a packed theater there were no laughs at the crass jokes. Nobody wanted to identify with them. There was comic relief when the master of the alehouse pretended to love Cosette and laughter erupted then, but during all the crass singing prior to that it was relatively subdued. Humanity embarrassed by humanity.  Count that as a win for the producer.”

“I was Javert.

Few people fought for right like I have. Few people relentlessly pursued justice. Few people were made unhappy by the crushing burden of the law. The law will kill you. And it almost killed me. Like Javert, not only could I not accept mercy on other people but I could not accept myself as a broken person because, well, it wasn’t right.

But I found mercy when I found myself hunted by the law. When the law made me realize there was no escape, I found mercy.”

The Most Common Cooking Mistakes Cooking Light shares 50 of the most common cooking mistakes (and how you can correct them). I knew a few, and I learned a few. I found this interesting, and the pictures make it fun, too. Just a sampling of one:

“17. Meat gets no chance to rest after cooking.

Result: Delicious juices vacate the meat and run all over the cutting board, leaving steak or roast dry.

Plan your meals so that meat you roast, grill, sear, or sauté has time to rest at room temperature after it’s pulled from the heat. That cooling-off time helps the juices, which migrate to the center of the meat, to be distributed more evenly throughout.

The resting rule applies equally to an inexpensive skirt steak or a premium dry-aged, grass-fed steak, as well as poultry. With small cuts like a steak or boneless, skinless chicken breast, five minutes is adequate. A whole bird or standing rib roast requires 20 to 30 minutes. Tent the meat loosely with foil to keep it warm.”

Reading 2012: Happier at Home

After profitting from Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project earlier this year, I was eager to read her newest book along the same thread, Happier at Home: Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Life(It’s currently #2 on the New York Times bestseller list.) Continue Reading…

Reading 2012: Love Does

Love Does: Discover a Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World is definitely not your ordinary book. But that’s because Bob Goff is not exactly an ordinary guy. As a teen, his life was deeply impacted by mentors in his life pointing him to Jesus and by showing him that love does–it doesn’t just make speeches or think about it, it shows what love is by doing. As he progressed into adulthood and his walk with God, he began to see the importance of living out his faith through the vivid language of love. Continue Reading…

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