Race: White Privilege – “White privilege” is a loaded term that often elicits a defensive response simply upon hearing the words. I really appreciate Iola’s helpful thoughts in her post (read the full post here).
“You don’t have to have money to benefit from white privilege nor do you even have to personally identify yourself as white. As long as society sees you as white, there is no question in whether you will benefit from white privilege.
Yet if you are still confused and have no idea how you are benefiting from the color of your skin answer these questions:
- Have you ever been stopped and frisked? Due to the fact that you fit a description of someone who may commit a crime?
- Have you ever been followed around a store, and arrested after you bought something you clearly was able to afford?
- Have you ever had been affected by negative stereotypes about your race, which have been going around since your ancestors stepped foot in a country?
- Are people surprised that when you speak, that you are actually articulate?
- Have you ever had to sit your kids down and talk about systemic racism?
- Have you ever received a job due to affirmative action? Or better yet people question your qualifications for why you received such job?
- Have you ever realized that you are only one of a handful of students of your race on a college campus?”
“White privilege will continue to be around until white supremacy is completely erased from society. Yet until that day I do ask you to use your white privilege for good. When you can understand your own privilege you will finally be better equipped to understanding the systemic inequalities that are going on around you. You will be better equipped to challenging the system and perhaps making a change.”
Why Jimmy Kimmel’s Lies Matter – Last year, when videos of parents stealing candy from kids went viral, my husband posted his concerns with this particular joke (even if it was funny!). So, this article caught my attention, as well. (Of course, there are some finer points on which I disagree with Kimmel, both here, and likely in his book on the subject, which I plan to read shortly.)
“These responses are callous and crazy. A four-year-old cannot possibly learn that candy “doesn’t matter”—in fact, many adults can’t seem to learn this. But he can learn that his parents will lie to him for the purpose of making him miserable. He can also learn that they will find his suffering hilarious and that, at any moment, he might be shamed by those closest to him. True, he may not remember learning these lessons explicitly—unless he happens to watch the footage on YouTube as it surpasses a billion views—but he will, nevertheless, be a person who was raised by parents who played recklessly with his trust. It amazes me that people think the stakes in these videos are low.”
“As parents, we must maintain our children’s trust—and the easiest way to lose it is by lying to them. Of course, we should communicate the truth in ways they can handle—and this often demands that we suppress details that would be confusing or needlessly disturbing. An important difference between children and (normal) adults is that children are not fully capable of conceiving of (much less looking out for) their real interests. Consequently, it might be necessary in some situations to pacify or motivate them with a lie. In my experience, however, such circumstances almost never arise.”