Let’s be gentle with each other. Let’s read each other’s signs. – I shared this link on Facebook last week, and though the hyperlink title (“her husband had an accident”) is a bit misleading on what the main point is, this article is rich with tidbits of wisdom.
“Sir,” he said, “There was a time in this country, in this community…when if you drove past your neighbor’s house and saw every single thing they own was for sale in front of their house…and that their lawn had not been mowed for weeks….that you would stop and say….WHAT IS GOING ON, SOMETHING MUST BE TERRIBLY WRONG, WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP YOU?”
The man was silent, and then my husband went on to tell him a few details about what was going on with our family.
The man waited a moment and then his tone changed. He apologized. I mean, really apologized and then said:
“I am going to call all of my friends and see if any of them need any of this stuff….””
“Every time I think of this story I want to be better. I want to do better, I don’t want any silent signs to go unread before my eyes or my heart. I don’t want to make up my own answers to what must be going on. I don’t want to assume…”
“Let’s be gentle with each other. Let’s read each other’s signs.”
Noticing and Treating Soul Fever – I benefited from reading the book, Simplicity Parenting, and one of the helpful concepts I took away from the book was that of “soul fever.” This article gives a helpful summary on recognizing and addressing soul fever.
“Soul fever is basically when kids get emotionally ‘sick’. He used the comparison with a physical fever because of the similarity.
Causes of Soul Fever
Physical fever come from over-activity, not enough rest, and exposure to sickness. Soul fever can be caused from over-activity, not enough rest, and exposure to stress. Too much stimulation and an inability to process or handle it.
What the author found was that kids in first world countries were exhibiting similar symptoms as kids who have gone through very traumatic situations (natural disasters or war) from a constant level of stress building up. Soul fever is when this constant stress tips over the top and starts being displayed.”