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“A Tradition of Discounting…”

September 7, 2012

Reading Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John Gottman, I encountered this morsel of perspicaciousness:

[W]e have inherited a tradition of discounting children’s feelings simply because children are smaller, less rational, less experienced, and less powerful than the adults around them. Taking children’s emotions seriously requires empathy, keen listening skills, and a willingness to see things from their perspective. It also takes a certain selflessness.”

(Which sort of reminds me of dear old Dr. Seuss, saying, “A person’s a person no matter how small.”)


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  • Rachel September 7, 2012 at 9:05 am

    This is so true! Too many people look down on their children. Looking at our children as unique individual creations that God loves and sacrificed so much for changes a parent’s perspective. To love and treat them as God does — a life-long endeavor. Thank you for sharing this, Keren!

    • Keren September 12, 2012 at 11:22 pm

      Definitely, Rachel.

  • saphirecrackerjacksunnydelightsoutsideways September 7, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    Little children also have a lot more ‘bounce back’ than adults, since the longer we live the closer we are to complete cessation of vitality (death). So, little children seem to be immune to things from which adults would need days or even sometimes months to recover. And, I suppose children’s less-developed long-term memory faculties add to that seeming immunity. But, many things, both good and bad, which happen to them as children crop up when they’re adults.

    • Keren September 12, 2012 at 11:18 pm

      And certainly, we can’t choose what children will remember (I know I remember mostly the really, really bad and the really, really good). Additionally, while we/children may not remember selective experiences, it certainly shapes us/them and our outlook on life.

  • Johanna Hanson September 8, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    I’ve always loved the Dr. Seuss quote, and this is also an excellent quote. I actually have this book on my to read list, so now I am even more eager to start it!

    • Keren September 12, 2012 at 11:14 pm

      Well, the first 40-ish pages are great. Right up my interest-alley so far. 😉