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Links to Think: 04.30.12

April 30, 2012

In which I wonder about Pinterest – Sarah Bessey offers some thought-provoking pondering into our motivation and heart between the Pinterest popularity. Of course, I want to clarify that if you use Pinterest, I’m not assigning these motives to you everytime I see a new pin. I know that I’ve personally benefited from gaining numerous, helpful ideas for home and family (and more), but I also know that these temptations are very real and very present.

“But here is the thing I have noticed about Pinterest:We pin the clothes we wish we wore.
We pin the places we wish we could visit.
We pin the home we wish we lived in.
We pin the crafts we wish we had time to do.
We pin the quotes and sentiments that we wish defined us more.
We pin the meals we wish we made.Really, we pin the life we wish we had.”

It’s a tension for our generation because we claim to eschew typical consumerism, we pooh-pooh the Walmart. We see what we purchase or desire as an extension of our identity. So we still want to buy and consume, we want to be unique so we copy someone else’s ideas, we still want to surround ourselves with our stuff. We want people to know who we are by what we wear, think, cook, espouse, read, or craft. (And now, add “pinning all the things” to that list.

Pinterest is the fantasy league of consumerism and it speaks to the larger issues that we battle as a society: I am my image, I am what I consume, I am what I purchase, I am what I desire. How will anyone know I’m cool and quirky and fun and unique if I don’t have the stuff that proves it? We become avatars of our true self, unable to be without the proper accoutrements to display it.

We mistake our Stuff for our Self.  And then when we pin it or we do it or, even better, if someone else pins it or likes it or comments on it, we feel reinforced in our yearned-for identity.

Whether it’s through fashion or art, technological gadgets, music, books, paint colours, vintage furniture, homeschool hacks, craft and so on, we think that if we have it, we are buying or pinning the lifestyle that it represents, the lifestyle that I wish was mine, the person I wish that I was.”

Why Potty Training Changed My Life – Just the title of this post made me laugh. 🙂

“Be prepared to rent a steam-vac when you’re done.”

The method is fine; I will do it with Kian when it’s time to potty train him.”

“My problem with the Three-Day Potty Training Method is the attitude it fosters in parents. Her guarantees of success make you feel like a total failure of a parent if your child doesn’t get it in three days. She gives false expectations, which makes the whole process more frustrating. She is very elitist about her method. “Won’t it be great to brag about how quickly your child ‘got it’?” That sounded fantastic to me 8 months ago. A lot of my friends were beginning potty training with their toddlers. I wanted Breckon to be the first! Surely, I would be hailed as the best mother, the smartest, the most consistent.”

“God, in his infinite wisdom, humbled me through the experience. Breckon was the last of that group of toddlers to finish potty training. Many of them used – gasp – Pull-Ups. For several weeks, I just grew more frustrated with Breckon for not getting it. I was following all the rules! I did everything well! Why wasn’t he performing?

God used potty training to mold me as a parent. Here’s what I learned…”

Free After 25 Years: A Tale Of Murder And Injustice – a tragic, but interesting piece of news.

“The past few years in Texas have seen a parade of DNA exonerations: more than 40 men so far. The first exonerations were big news, but the type has grown smaller as Texans have watched a dismaying march of exonerees, their wasted years haunting the public conscience.

Yet a case in Williamson County, just north of Austin, is raising the ante. Michael Morton had been sentenced to life in prison for murdering his wife. He was released six months ago — 25 years after being convicted — when DNA testing proved he was not the killer.

Instead of merely seeking financial compensation, Morton is working to fix the system. His lawyers, including The Innocence Project, want to hold the man who put him behind bars accountable. They also want new laws to make sure Morton’s story is never repeated.”

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