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Who to Marry and Other Important Questions of a Three Year Old!

July 28, 2011

Hana Kate loves to spend the moments before bedtime asking deep questions, usually about topics and themes related to the Bible, probably because we’ve just read from her Bible. Usually Daniel is the one fielding her questions and enjoying the discussions. Last week, she asked Daniel to talk to her about “the people, the people who were the first people without any other people” (Adam and Eve), and then what life was like in Eden before man sinned. She loves to talk about how all the animals got along together and how none of them were “angry animals.” Somehow, the discussion and questions progressed to marriage, and Hana Kate told Daniel that she wanted to get married. Daniel told her that she had to wait until she was older and bigger , but Hana Kate told him she already knew who she wanted to marry: Daddy. 🙂 Daddy quickly informed her that he couldn’t marry her because he was already married. Without much hesitation or pause and with great seriousness, she informed him that if she couldn’t marry Daddy, she would like to marry Jesus. 🙂 Upon being informed that Jesus didn’t get married (for some reason, Daniel didn’t bring up Christ and His bride the Church. ;)), she knew that she would like to marry Aunt Emby. And then, it was time to tell her that she had to marry a boy (not to mention a non-relative). After that the discussion led to Mommy and Daddy’s wedding. Looks like it will be a few more years after all before we devote ourselves to serious wedding planning. Whew.

What questions puzzled the mind of a 3-year-old when it came to asking about Daddy and Mommy’s wedding (she hasn’t seen a wedding video, etc…, so it’s not something she’s had much exposure to)? Well, of course the first was, “When it was Mommy’s wedding, did you ask her to marry you?” Second was, “Did you brush your teeth when it was your wedding?” Very important, for sure. 🙂

And to close out the discussion, Hana Kate asked “Do I need to be as big as Jesus to get married? I want to do that, Daddy.”

God has gifted Hana Kate with a love for Jesus as she knows Him. We are planning to move soon, and Hana Kate has multiple times come to us and said things like, “Instead of moving to our new house, I just want to move to Jesus’ house,” or “I don’t want to move to our new house. I just want to go live with Jesus at His house.” She says this, knowing that there are things about our new place that will make it an exciting place for a child to live (like community pool, playground). To be honest, I have to admit that these kind of statements sometimes scare me that this is some way of softening the blow of something happening to Hana Kate, and then knowing she wanted to be with Jesus all along. But truly, I am so thankful to see evidence of the gift of faith and love for God that God has mercifully displayed in her life. There are a lot of gaps and holes in her knowledge of the Gospel, but what she does know she treasures. Multiple times she has asked us, “Mommy, do you believe that Jesus died for us? I do, Mommy.” or “Do you believe in Jesus? I believe in Jesus.” We have taken caution not to over-apply or overdo our explanations and presentations of the Gospel, but we praise God for the fact that at this point in her life Hana Kate seems to delight in learning and loving the things of God..

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  • Jennifer Lewis July 28, 2011 at 7:57 pm

    What a neat post! From the mouths of infants and sucklings He has ordained praise. Keren, you are a great writer!

    • Keren August 13, 2011 at 3:36 pm

      Thanks, Jen! That is an amazing verse to (try to) think about!

  • Hannah Goodman July 28, 2011 at 9:51 pm

    Oh, wow, that is just beautiful! Faith like a child!

  • Chelo @ Home and Bahay July 28, 2011 at 9:54 pm

    Precious and inspiring <3

  • Beth Robbins Goforth July 28, 2011 at 10:37 pm

    Keren, I am tearing up reading about your fear of losing your little girl. When we lost Zoe last year, I realized just how much we are not in control of our lives (or our children’s lives). But, God in His grace is (still) showing me that He is always in complete control. Last year, I honestly didn’t really like HIs control and sometimes still fear what His “control” will bring in the future. Every day, though, He is teaching me that “there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear.” I will pray for your growth in trust in that area too. Thanks so much for sharing all the stories about your girls. They are precious and so much fun to read. What a blessing they must be to you!

    • Keren August 13, 2011 at 3:35 pm

      Thanks, Beth, for sharing. Having children (and especially my first pregnancy and then a likely miscarriage) made me realize how deep the fears can run, how fragile life is. And how strong our God is! But I certainly have not had the depth of experience in this that you and others have. Losing Zoe, I am sure, has made you and countless others far more deeply aware of how every day of life on earth is a miracle. (I used to think about this far more often, but it sadly becomes so easy to take the enjoyment of life with my children for granted.)

      I am sorry for the loss, and pray that God will continue to strengthen and comfort you and Michael as you both grieve and rejoice in her absence from your presence here on earth. I know God has used her life and yours to touch many, many hearts and point to Him. Thank you for sharing both here briefly and on Facebook.

  • Carrie July 29, 2011 at 10:36 am

    So precious! Children are such gifts.

  • Deborah September 15, 2011 at 9:13 am

    Precious! God is good…