Reading 2015: The Best Yes

The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands

Starting this book on the heels of What’s Best Next (review here), as another three-word-titled productivity-ish book, I have to admit I was a little curious as to the direction it would go. (I mean, that title almost sounds like it flows with Your Best Life Now? ;)) Thankfully, the book and its content are fairly straightforward.

Lysa Terkeurst’s The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands connected well with my recents readings of What’s Best Next and Essentialism, but definitely had a unique approach and is geared toward the specific audience of women (and moms), though still providing material that applicable for anyone. This was also my first time to read a book by Terkeurst.

Saying “no” is hard. Especially, saying “no” to good people, good opportunities, and even good ministries. We live in an age of endless opportunities, 24/7 accessibility, and lots of pressure to not only “have it all,” but to “do it all” and “be it all.” And in this type of culture, it is especially important to consider, reconsider, and pursue wisdom as we make decisions. Continue reading

Links to Think: 15.03.09


Making the Church A Safe Place for Mental Illness

This is a helpful article on many levels, although incomplete and perhaps confusing at some points. But this is a message that needs to be heard in both our local churches and the American church at large.

“Church can be a tough place for people who struggle with depression, anxiety, bipolar, or any other mental disorder. Not because church members don’t care about those who struggle with mental illness, but because most church members don’t really know how to care for those struggle. Those who struggle can feel lonely, hopeless, and ashamed.

I don’t say this in a critical way. Trust me, I get it: mental stuff is really hard to understand. Depression doesn’t make sense if you’ve never experienced it. Chronic physical anxiety almost sounds like worry, even though the two are drastically different.”

“In some churches, there’s this weird taboo surrounding mental illness. Nobody ever talks about it or acknowledges that it’s real. If a guy is sunk into depression, we say he’s, “Going through a rough patch,” or, “Having a tough time,” or we don’t say anything at all. If someone has cancer, we pray that God will heal her. If someone has back surgery, we make meals for him. But when it comes to mental illness, we don’t know what to say or do. Everyone knows something is wrong but nobody actually talks about it.

If we’re going to really serve those who struggle, we need to readily acknowledge that mental disorders are real, and that they can really mess a person up. We need to come to terms with the reality that our outer selves, including our brains, are “wasting away” (2 Corinthians 4:16). We need to affirm that all of creation, including our bodies and brains, have been “subjected to futility” (Romans 8:20). Mental illness is a result of the fall. We are totally depraved, which means that the totality of our being, including our minds, have been broken.

When we acknowledge that mental illness is a real category of suffering, it allows those who are suffering to open up to others. It also allows other Christians to pray for and serve those who are suffering. The Bible has so many words of encouragement for those who are suffering, but we won’t be able to encourage others unless we first recognize that they really are suffering. As one who has dealt with chronic physical anxiety for years, I can assure you, mental illness is real suffering.”

To the Mean Stranger Who Judged My Parenting Abilities, Thank You

“I posted this on my personal Facebook page last week, but it’s so good I wanted to share it here, too.

“This short interaction has had a lasting impression on me. And not just because of her audacity but because I can relate to what she was thinking. While I’ve never walked up to a mom and criticized her, I have thought things to myself not too dissimilar, and it made me feel awful. Here I was in an extraordinary situation wishing others would understand and I was guilty of thinking the same things.

My husband’s words hit me like a hammer. I’d silently judged without stopping to think that maybe I didn’t have all the information. The thought that I could have dismissed a mother in desperate need of support, a mother like myself, deeply bothered me.”

“When these things happen, we do what we must to survive. Sometimes that means our parenting choices look strange. These are the times when the world feels harsh, but we need it to be kind. I truly believe if anyone should have compassion for parents, it’s other parents. What we really need is support, not judgment.

So, to the random lady on street, I can’t thank you enough for making me realize this. You hurt me and embarrassed me. But, you made me realize I was guilty of forgetting that my battle is not an isolated one. You reminded me we all struggle and none of us have the whole picture. You changed how I see others and how I approach them. You connected me to my community and gave me compassion for the unconventional.”

Related: Links to Think: 15.03.02 “Why Preschool Shouldn’t Be Like School“ and “10 Memorable Dr. Seuss Quotes About His Work“

Disclaimer: “Links to Think” is my post of curated articles and blog posts from around the Internet. I rarely post something in its entirety (click on the heading title to read the rest of the article I’m excerpting), and I have yet to find another author with whom I agree with on everything. Please note that my sharing an article from a particular author in no way signifies my endorsement or agreement with their entire work.

Links to Think: 15.03.02


Why Preschool Shouldn’t Be Like School

This is a helpful article examining how our push for earlier and earlier academics may actually backfire.

“Ours is an age of pedagogy. Anxious parents instruct their children more and more, at younger and younger ages, until they’re reading books to babies in the womb. They pressure teachers to make kindergartens and nurseries more like schools. So does the law—the 2001 No Child Left Behind Act explicitly urged more direct instruction in federally funded preschools. Continue reading

Reading 2015: Move Your DNA

Move Your DNA

In Move Your DNA: Restore Your Health Through Natural Movement, biomechanics expert Katy Bowman presents a holistic view of how human movement and body alignment affects our bodies all the way down to the cellular level. Continue reading

The Requirements for Coming


“Jesus does not say, “Come to me, all you who have learned how to concentrate in prayer, whose minds no longer wander, and I will give you rest.” No, Jesus opens his arms to his needy children and says, “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy- laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28 , NASB). The criteria for coming to Jesus is weariness. Come overwhelmed with life. Come with your wandering mind. Come messy.” 

Paul Miller, A Praying Life

(Goes along well with my post for the start of 2015: A Call to Stop Doing)